To me the expression ‘reaching across the aisle’ is hogwash. If you look at it, it means we have kept our feet firmly planted where we stand and are reaching with our arms. If we are going to meet on common ground, then let’s not reach across the aisle – but meet in the aisle. […]
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Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree that one of the keys to happiness is strong relationships with other people. We need to have intimate, enduring bonds; we need to be able to confide; we need to feel that we belong; we need to be able to get support, and just as important for happiness, to
I recently had to attend an important meeting where I had not left myself enough time (margin) to deal with some traffic issues. Therefore, I was stressing out while sitting in traffic knowing others were sitting around waiting on me. I also find myself in an airport about 5 times a month for work. I
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This past weekend I attended the 35th reunion of my senior year’s college football team, then drove across the state to play golf with my brothers on the 20th anniversary of our Dad’s passing at the too early age of 57. Two events the same weekend driven by the same force, yet from two opposite
When we look at what’s wrong first, we start from a negative perspective, a negative mindset of what went awry, what expectations we didn’t meet, who caused this failure. The first act is often to determine blame. Focusing on the negative is the path of least resistance. What if, instead, we build on what is
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A new football coaching staff has arrived at my alma mater, Lafayette College, and with a new staff comes a new mindset, new ideas and a new motto. The Head Coach is using the phrase “It’s a privilege, not a right, to play and coach for the Lafayette Leopards”. He is building off the rich
When we first taught tackling to high school football players we started off using the phrase “break down” as the expression for the player to get into a tackling position. Coaches of all ages and across the country use that expression. However, we came to realize that command made the player come to a
We have a sign in the football locker room, “Discipline is not what we do to you, it is what we do for you”. As a high school football coach, an unexpected requirement of the job is to convince young men that discipline is not a bad word. Until that point in their life for
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“To follow” – go or come after (a person or thing proceeding ahead); to accept as a guide or leader; accept the authority of or give allegiance to; to conform to, comply with, or act in accordance with; obey. “To Join” – to connect, or bring or put together; to come into union with; to
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When someone says “have a nice day” or my wife tells me “safe travels”, over the years my answer has become “I’ll do my part” which can often get me weird looks (no longer from my wife, she chose to marry me). None of us have complete control over our circumstances so how can we possibly
